Today's appointment

Well I saw my doctor today for a 28 week check up. In 2 or 3 weeks, I will need to go see the other OB for a pre-vbac consultation. Assuming he still feels I am a good candidate for a vbac, he will approve my choice and then I will schedule an appointment at 37 or 38 weeks with him and finish up the last couple weeks with him. I am supposed to ask him (per my doctors instructions) if he wouldn't mind me seeing her for my appointments between 32 and 38 weeks. I'm not going to ask.

I am sick of playing "doctor, may I?" I am tempted to go without care for the next 3 months, I am that frustrated. Part of me doesn't want to burn the bridge with my family practitioner, but the other part of me is sooooo tired of not being listened to and jumping hoops, and since I plan on doing this at home, how can I possibly avoid upsetting someone?! If I continue with care and then just deliver at home, I will upset the doctor who had me in his "schedule". If my baby is breech (baby was still transverse today, though I could tell we had been vertex last week), he will push me for another c-section. Worse yet, since I have a request in to my insurance for a tubal IF I end up with an emergency c-section (and only in that circumstance, because for me, a second section is the last section, even though I want more children. Just another back up plan.), he will somehow work things so that I end up in that situation anyway!
I will go to him to make sure I am in his schedule as far as a due date. I WILL be going to my own doctor for the last appointments. I will NOT be letting him strip my membranes or schedule an induction for me. I WILL be delivering at home. If my baby is breech, like #3 was, and I cannot turn him, I will be delivering at home anyway. The complication here is that I have 2 doctors working with me and if I burn one, then I probably burn them both. What do I do?

Seriously, any advice on how to navigate the personal side of this would be appreciated.

I have a couple tests left: glucose tolerance and Strep B. Both will be done by my physician. Should I just not go to the other doctor? Should I contact that friend who offered information to a traditional midwife? I don't even want to go to the OB, but he is my back up should things go wrong..... I am frustrated.